WORK LIFE BALANCE, YA RIGHT?

It is doable. You just have to be tough enough to rough it out. Work-life balance is for most the 'holy grail' but it isn't that hard to get. Really.

There are only 24 hours in a day; 8 hours are devoted to work, at least 2 hours to get to work and back, 3 hours for 3 meals (unless you skip breakfast), 2 hours (okay, maybe 2.5 hours) wasting time online, answering emails, on facebook, youtube, twitter etc, 7 hours of sleep and 2 hours in between for your toilet/washroom escapades, being sick, housechores, bill-paying, tv, cooking, washing, freaking out over your sick kid etc. 

How do you do it?

There is such a thing as work-life balance, it just means different things to different people. 

But there are a few rules that could actually help you get your act together.

No.1, Have a cut off point for everything. Give yourself enough time for work, and after you have used up all the alloted time, drop everything and continue on with your life. This means that if 8 hours is not enough, give yourself up to 10 or 12 hours, but beyond that, you have to stop thinking about work and focus on the other aspects of life.

No. 2, you don't have to be supermom all the time. This means that it is okay for you to skip some not so urgent matters so you can tend to the more urgent matters first. Not everything needs to be done right now. 

No. 3, know when you need a break, rest up and then get going again. Taking a break every week or so is a much better option than falling sick which will take you out for half a week; how will you ever catch up under such conditions? You don't. So, take a lot of fluids, vitamins if you need to, catch up on sleep after you've lost enough to keep you dizzy and start you on 24/7 IV fluids. Back down before you break down.

No. 4, be brutally honest when you find yourself trapped. 'Lizzie, before you go back for the night, do you think you can prepare the Johnsons' report for me by tomorrow? I have a meeting with them at 9am and I got a match to watch tonight so I'm too busy to do it even if the match ends at 11 and you had been camping at the office for the last two days.' 

You know when is a good time to just say NO.

No. 5, be brutally strict with your kid as well. Here is when a lot of parents screw up. They only exact discipline when they are in a bad mood, they had a rough day, they have a deadline to catch or when someone else is watching. Don't believe me? Have you ever seen parents who act like they are paralysed whenever they see their kid climb precariously onto an adult's chair? Then, they start scolding their kid when the kid does the same thing whenever someone comes to visit. 

Please, you're confusing the kid. How is the kid supposed to know whether or not they can or cannot climb dangerously onto chairs? They'd be more likely to think that they CAN do that when no one in particular is watching. That's when they start coming to you with bruises, injuries and wounds that 'come from nowhere'. 

Explain to the child that it is dangerous for them to do so, but allow them to climb onto the chair (or do any other it's only dangerous if you fall actions) with you around to act as the safety net. If the child falls, be there to comfort him or her, but do not react strongly (like shout when they fall or raise the tone of your voice) in the event this happens. What you can do is to nurse the pain for a bit, tell them that you told them to not climb because you knew this was going to happen. 

Explain to them also that if they do that again, they should use special precautions, be more careful or only do it when you are around in case they may fall again. You can't be there all the time but your child should understand that you will be there for them no matter what idiotic situations they get themselves in. You have to let your child grow before they can.

Best of luck, working parents out there!