KIDS THESE DAYS

It's possible that I am old-fashioned. Highly possible. But I'm finding it hard to understand teenagers or young adults who still act like they are teenagers. I did have to deal with a full adult, close to a cycle older than me (that means 12 years to you non-chinese zodiac speaking peeps) who acted like a teenager too. It's a luxury for them/her basically, not having to act like a professional when they/she should. I just had stricter upbringing, and I had to grow up a lot sooner than most kids. Not sure if it is a boon or a bane yet. Plenty of time to figure that out.

But what really really gets me is that they:
1. do not want to care
2. do not think you should care either because they think negatively of it eg you are speculating which is bad, you are gossiping which is bad, you are trespassing which is bad, you are asking too personal questions which is bad.
3. they do whatever they like, not what they are required to do
4. they reject anything that has the slightest reference to responsibility
5. think life is about them, not the other 6 billion people out there. To think about others takes a lot of them, and they can't handle it. therefore, they don't.

I'm worried about the future of society.

I'm not writing out of frustration, although a bulk of it may sound like it. It's not even disappointment... or disbelief. It's more of a... reflection of what is going on with today's youths.

Things may turn out fine. We may one day delete the use and necessity of marriages and of living together; everyone gets to live on their own or with people they cannot procreate with; news will be about new branded items that have come out and which gives you a chance to stick your credit card through the machine again because last month's transactions didn't screw the credit card enough; and everyone will be out doing charity because that's the way they show the world they care.. what they care about is a full other issue.

Sigh. I don't know. I'm stuck between generations. I have people older than me who says I am too young to be tied down as a mom, and I have friends who are younger than me who look up to me like they do their aunts (or older). To some I'm supposed to have all the answers, but the answers should fit the ones they already have in their head... or they tell me that I am not always right (= you are wrong and I know it cause I say so - welcome to teen logic), while to others I'm suppose to spoonfeed them, tell them how to walk, talk, drink, eat, sleep, be a mom etcetera etcetera etcetera.

Maybe I should stop caring. It would do good to the little soul I have left in me.

RIHANNA OPENING UP AND SURVIVING WITHOUT HIM

Nine months ago, the entertainment industry shook us with the story of a woman being beaten and abused by a man inside his car. She left to seek help from the police.

The next day, news came out that it was Rihanna and Chris Brown.

A few more days later, photos of her battered face and swollen lips circulated the Internet. There was major uproar; some people said some things, people were horrified, concerts were cancelled and then...

Rihanna went back to Chris.

Six months ago, I posted something in the likes of Rihanna making a big mistake by following her heart instead of her common sense, and the implications on girls everywhere, who look up to her. Read the post here.

Love can make us do really stupid things. But what happens when what you do can lead to someone being killed? Can you live with it? Thank goodness Rihanna can't and won't.

Here are some of the excerpts from her interview on ABC's Good Morning America which made news all over again.

"She explained: 'When I realised that my selfish decision for love could result in some young girl getting killed, I could not be easy with that part. I couldn't be held responsible for telling them "go back""

'Even if Chris never hit me again who is to say their boyfriends won't. Who is to say that they won't kill these girls?

'I just didn't realise how much of an impact I could have on these girls' lives until this happened. It was a wake-up call for me...

'Especially when I took myself out of that situation and I'll say that to any young girl who is going through domestic violence.

'"F" love. Come out of the situation and look at it third person and for what it really is, then make your decision because love is so blind.'

Well said, girl. So proud of her. It's a step towards growing up.

Which is more than what I can say for Chris Brown.