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May 6, 2009

Consensual Sex vs Rape

Okay, time for a topic that is of a serious note.

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YOUTH OVERSLEEPS AFTER SEX WITH TEENAGER

KUANTAN: A teenaged couple, who had spent the night together having sex in the girl’s house, was caught after the boyfriend apparently dozed off.

The girl’s stepmother was shocked to find the naked man in bed with the sleeping girl when she came to wake her up for school on Tuesday morning.

State CID chief Asst Comm T. Narenasagaran said the stepmother, aged 46, went to the girl’s room on the second floor of the house at about 7.10am.

When she opened the door, she spotted the 18-year-old youth, who then got up to dress.

“The woman questioned the youth, who later admitted having sex with the girl as they were lovers.

“A police report was lodged and we have detained the youth,” he said, adding that initial investigations revealed that the youth had sneaked into the girl’s room the night before.

The case has been classified as rape.

In a separate case, a 13-year-old girl was raped by a man on the pavement in front of SK Mat Kilau here on Tuesday night.

ACP Narenasagaran said the victim had followed the man for a joyride around town after a quarrel with her mother.

He said the 21-year-old man then took the victim to the secluded spot at about 9pm, where he suddenly forced himself on her.

“The victim broke down upon reaching home and told her mother of the incident before lodging a report.

“We have identified the suspect and will pick him up for questioning soon,” he said.

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For those who have no idea, sex with a minor of under 16 years of age carries the charge of statutory rape here in Malaysia. This means that regardless of your girlfriend or boyfriend consenting to the act of sex with you, if they are under the age of 16 then you will be charged with raping them.

The idea itself in my opinion is ridiculous. Why? Rape occurs when the woman does not oblige or consent to being involved in a sexual act with another person, usually a man. If she consents to it, then it is not considered rape. This is why it is particularly hard for a woman to be charged of raping a man. If he does not 'consent' physically, she won't have been able to rape him, would she?

Anyways, take the news article above as an example. The two lovebirds consented to the act of consensual rape, but now only the boy, who unfortunately is 18 years old, will be charged with this. And with a serious charge that will probably stick for life, raping a person, be it statutory or not. The girl is as guilty as the boy but she will get away with this scot free because apparently she can have sex but she isn't mature enough to 'understand' the consequences of sex at such an early age.

We should all probably grow up and smell the Kopi O. But I digress.

Imagine how complicated this will be if the boy were also below 16 years of age. Do the police charge them both of statutory rape?

Which leads us to the second part of the news article about the 13 year old being raped at the pavement outside a school, at night, by someone who offered her a joyride, that she took because she fought with her mom. I might be paranoid but most of us know better than to follow a man she cannot trust out into the night all by herself. Aren't there enough reported gang rape cases to scare some common sense into teenage girls and young women nowadays?

Sigh...



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